I love men who are a little “feminine”. Perhaps we’ve polarized humanity by insisting that gentleness is a feminine trait. That may need to be reconsidered. Why should we say that men are the protective ones, when we see, in animals, the female fighting fiercely for her little ones?

It is time for all of us to be whole – each one of us is the yin and the yang. We are no longer stereo typed. Honestly, I’m an attractive woman who loves men – the masculine, the androgenous, and the feminine. There is beauty in all. I think that masculine does not have to include anger and brutishness. This type of behavior only creates fear and forces submission. It does not solve, honor, or love the other. I’ve felt these angry forceful feelings, but I’ve realized that it reflected a deep sadness and struggle within and led to more struggle, without solution. So, truly, it is deceptive and sad for the person and the other who might receive this person’s anger and frustration.

I thank God compassion has not been polarized as a feminine or masculine trait. We are merely playing roles if we see ourselves as clearly masculine or feminine. We are whole, complete, and undefined. When we realize who we are, we will find ourselves more joyous, fulfilled, and happy, instead of hostile and angry.

And ask yourself this “Is it more fun to feel vast and joyous or to feel angry and victimized?” We all need to take a few leaps, including me. I wish I could dry the inner tears of the angry man. I wish I could remove the pain of the woman who has numbed herself, by being so tough and closed that she cannot receive love. That has been me at times and I don’t like it. May we all be free.

Kristina

I have been taking your online course for the past week. I am a member of Zaadz also.

Some of the content on Zaadz is a little deep for me and I just dont understand all of the metaphors and for lack of a better term all of the deep talk.

I am in no way knocking anything that I dont understand. I simply dont understand. As it was said in the late 60′s and early 70′s, I find myself saying to myself as I read stuff in Zaadz, “Thats Deep” or “Thats Heavy”.

What I do feel is warm caring people. I dont have ot understand everything.

I enjoy your course and it is very useful to me.

Thanks for caring about me and the 19,999 people who read your E to us.

Peace and Blessings

Joseph

I think the thing to distinguish, for me, is that I am a individual and as an individual, I have full responsibility for what I have and what I don’t have in my life.

In relationships with others, I am the one responsible for what I have and what I don’t have.

As a man, I fully own the whole spectrum of human emotions, the daring to skydive, the courage to go to battle if needed and the depth of heart to embrace my children.

The most courageous men are the ones who own their strength to battle and their strength to embrace a little child or kiss an old woman and have that be the fulfillment of what it means to be a human being.

Macho is an attempt to look strong, true strength is in embracing and accepting every part of who and what I am.

I cry often and my tears are tears of passion, of love and of intense desire.

Instead of accepting what ever society says is appropriate for you, be it how you grew up, who your parents are, what education you can afford, ect.

Or getting what you have always wanted because you have refused to settle, refused to give in to the cinics around you, and followed your feelings to achieve what you have always desired.

Anger has been an emotion I have avoided. The loudness and energy of it always struck me as manipulative — I think this is true.

A few months ago, I began to see how my judgments of myself and others ruled my abilities to manifest in the world and in my relationships. I was angry and thought it despicable. I was sad and thought myself worthless. I was anything other than perfect and felt intense shame.

I’m thinking now that all feelings can be access to honor: anger, fear, sadness and love (and all of their variations).

Great behavior is not enough! Access to true power comes from forgiving judgments to the point where nothing stands separate from myself.

How do I forgive judgments? Good question.

Any time I take any position, it is founded on judgment, and therefore creates alienation of some sort — usually of some part of myself, as well as others.

How do I get to the place where I can keep going like MLK or Ghandi in the face of criticism, obvious mistakes, manipulations, poor behavior, etc? Where does that type of power come from? Most of us are riddled with an ongoing interanl dialogue that nearly completely distracts us from our goals and values. And, we don’t realize it because it feels so natural to have — we’ve had it all of our lives.

Evaluating ourselves and others seems to be what our minds thrive on! This is not what I want. It takes too much time and precious energy.

All that having been said: I am beginning to see a vision of clarity like never before — not a way of being or way of thinking or “way of” anything, but a state of being that actually uses all emotion as creative force.

That state of being is so vertical and pointed that nothing gets stuck on it — ever. I envision a vacuum of energy coming up from the base. It is unobstructed and immediately creative.
Critcisms and judgments that are energy drains never occur in this exacting environment. There is critical thinking in this world for purpose of progress, but never does it affect anyone in a diminishing way.

What am I talking about and seeing? There is no bull shit here!