Naoko,
Translator & Interpreter, Japan

The excerpt really moved me – I was that little girl and so was my daughter until I realized one day that I had become my ‘mother’ and its been really hard to deal with. Although in my 40′s now I am still ‘stuck’ being that girl inside but am slowly finding ways of getting ‘unstuck’. I have a problem expressing my emotions/feelings and am unable to speak from the ‘heart’. The excerpt took me back years and brought up a lot of hidden emotions. Your book I think will benefit a lot of people and I look forward to it.

As I read now, I am fully aware of my entire being as I perceive it, feelings, thoughts, pictures, I then simply watch what conflict exists and then relax…

All kinds of powerful releases of blocked energy occur, strange pulses, warmth, and peace is soon revealed.

The trick is completely immersing and associating with the character and at the same allowing your own fulleset ‘inner’ experience to reveal your own truth.

Consider a book may take a person a lifetime for a person to create, and you get to have this hyper-speed evolutionary perspective from anothers point of view, over and over from different creators…

Flippin marvellous:)
Sean

That was intense! I loved it! It was interesting , as a parent, to be put in the position of my kids and yet to remember myself in that position as a child at the same time. These are words to which everyone can relate.

Bravo! I can’t wait to read the rest of the book. My mouth is watering now

gina

I highly recommend the book Parenting for a Peaceful World by Robin Grille for a very full and moving understanding of the history of the treatment of children and how the treatment of children affects the societies we create. It’s a book that helps us to drop our judgments and see that as you say, we are all damaged children. I felt such compassion for everyone after reading that book. Robin’s view that extensive psychotherapy is needed to over come the damage i do not share. that’s why i get excited about tools that enable rapid shifts in our way of relating to ourselves, each other and the world.

The good news is that we know so much now about how to parent children with kindness and respect to ensure they develop empathy and creativity ( and Robin Grille covers this subject fantastically) – and we are learning how to create a healthy growth environment for ourselves and each other to heal the damage that we have received in childhood. Your tools are so valuable for that.

Thank you for your stand for humanity! You are inspiring me to be stand up and speak out more widely about tools such as yours. I am a life coach and feeling called to become a pubilc speaker about these topics.

warm regards, Alice

Continuing on from what you say in our book (in inverted commas below) is a bit I have added. It is some of the thoughts I have had, which I am working on expanding and refining further, for a book I am considering writing – GRACE (Growth and Resurgence Achieved by Community Empowerment).

“Why are our parents and other authorities in our lives often so incapable of really seeing us and speaking to our hearts? Why do they use fear, guilt and shame to enforce their views on us? Why are they so distant? Or, so intrusive? Or, so insensitive? Or ______________?

Consider that they grew up in the same crazy world we’re living in now. They faced the judgments of the world, to be who they have become. Inside each adult is a wounded child, longing to be seen and honored for who they truly are.”

The wounded child inside has never learnt to LIVE; it has been so busy surviving in a world it sees as hostile. But, surely, this child received an education! Didn’t that education help alleviate the past, heal the wound and help this child grow and live? Obviously not. It received the education from other wounded children, who, themselves facing judgments and using judgment as a weapon of survival, were not capable of helping it develop and grow. Also, the ‘education’ it received was nothing more than ‘training’ to ‘fit in’ and serve the system created by other wounded children. This cycle will go on and on until some few who have managed to break the shackles of this cycle intervene with enlightening education of the afflicted.

what an amazing piece of writing, and a very accurate descripition of how we learn the ”roles” we need to measure up to so that we can get the love we deserve, and need. this is pretty much what I have been teaching men for the last 17 years, what was done to them when they were little and vulnerable, the wounds inside that are not noticed or healed create thier ”coping” mechanisms later in life. The belief systems that our parents and the society have passed on to thier children come back in all kind of destructive ways…… violence to others and violence to ourselves.The ”white elephant” in most of us has to do with the gender roles we are just begining to un-do. Bless us and the generations before, we are just starting to understand how beliefs, that are mostly unconscious and false have set us up …………in solidarity, and love peacePeter

Angela had been working far to long and the burden of having to provide for her little daughter Angelina had proved to be more than she could handle by herself. Alone with here thoughts felt that the pressures of having to provide, of being both hunter and gatherer for Angelina was too large a burden to share with anyone but herself.

This is a story about the life of a single mother.

Coping strategies for parents who have not been given a second chance by the social order within which they have been thrown like a kid into a flood and told sink or swim by their peers. That is a really hard line to take. But that is the everyday reality for lots of single MOMS. OK what are the circumstances that occurred before the above scene came to your attention?

Whatever the beginnings are we need to define simply what the terms of endearment are before we can ever rise from the pit of despair or is that the pit of empathy or is it the pit of pity. Whatever it is it is a void that the vast majority of members of the general public avoid. The general hysteria of going about ones daily work, to please the boss, the co-workers and the general public whom your business is there to serve. Is it hysteria? I believe it is. IF so then we ought to understand hysteria much better than we do.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

If we use our voice to tell a story we can tell that story from the perspective viewpoint of each of the characters within the drama. Each character brings to the conversation their peculiar idiosyncrasies. It is how we deal with the particulars and the universals of that idiosyncratic diversity of intentions that we gain any form of social understanding.

I assume that the underpinnings of the descriptive function that languages perform is LOGIC. I know a little bit about LOGIC, I am a mere amateur logician a mere amateur aesthetician a mere amateur semiologist and mere amateur anthropologist and lastly to the thumbs up a mere amateur cultureologist. That is a peculiar mix of traits that is a peculiar list of attributes. I listen to the radio a lot instead of going to earn a living in the workforce, this has left me poorer than a church mouse. The pickings are slim. Not much gets eaten in a church let alone dropped on the floor for us mice. Starvation diets produce anxious care and anxious care produces a state of hysteria and a state of hysteria makes ones spirit, ones emotional state feel ill, feel not so well at all and so one gets angry, one goes into a pathological state of mind and ends up in a state of psychosis ready to be carted off in a straight jacket. One would have to be a Houdini to get out of that double bind, the straight jacket that the present day social order has put mankind in. Am I in the right to question the present day state of affairs or not?

What is the solution to this problem?

Pete Clarkson alias TruthInArt alias Paparazzo of Plagiarism